I know, I know... I suck. I haven't posted in a while. I just haven't been interested in talking about myself. Hard to believe, I realize, since I AM such an attention whore and all.
Since my last post, I've had three saline fills in frankenboob. It's largely uneventful. I've been fortunate so far and haven't experienced any pain or discomfort. Granted, I have no feeling in frankenboob itself, but I expected that heaviness/iron bra feeling that I had shortly after surgery. Nope. Not yet. Supposedly, I'll only have a few more sessions and then we can talk surgery. It's still on point for April/May.
I feel like I'm in this weird limbo stage. I had cancer. I went through chemo and radiation and had surgery. My fatigue comes and goes but other than that, physically, I feel pretty darn close to normal. I'm very slowly losing weight, thanks to my trusty Weight Watchers app but just when I feel like I'm making some progress, I see a picture of myself and realize how far I have to go.
I'm anxious for my surgery so that I can be finished with this whole mess but I won't lie... Part of me hopes that it will be that final thing that makes me feel pretty. I will be thinner with a flat stomach and perky boobs. Will that help my badly damaged self esteem? I don't know. I'd rather hide and not draw attention to myself right now and that's something that I'm just not sure how to handle.
Cancer didn't just steal my breast - it stole my sense if self. I'm so painfully insecure now. If it was just the fact that I have one boob - I'd deal with it. Interestingly enough, that's the least of my issues. Relying on my fantastic wit and charm alone can be exhausting.
This is pathetic but I miss being checked out by the dude with the gold tooth at the McDonald's drive-thru or the pervy old man at the mall. I know I'm putting way too much emphasis on my appearance but dammit - I'm still a red-blooded woman and like to feel attractive, even if it's validation from odd characters.
I am happy with my life and love those around me more than I knew I could. I have a new outlook on life but my esteem took a nosedive. These next few months will be my ugly duckling stage. I am busting my flat little ass to get healthy and feel good - physically AND mentally. I hope to transform into a swan soon. Well, one that laughs at potty humor and can't dance and swears like a fucking sailor.
Sorry for unleashing the cry baby on your asses. I will be fine. I just wanted to feel sorry for myself. Thanks for letting me.
More of my inane-ness (I'm sure that's not even a word) soon. Promise.
Xoxo
You can cry about it if you want to. The battle you have fought gives you that right. Because we all know your as honest as they come. I have come to learn in those 9 months before Mike passed away that emotions have many sides and each won of them had a right to let out. I let him voice whatever he needed. As for me the day he passed i beat the hell out of the huge rock that was in our front yard with a ball bat. I guess all I am saying is don't do and say whatever you need to. That is what has aided in you winning your battle. Wave that victory flag high...shout your feeling out loud. Because Nancy...in my eyes your a hero! Much love. Tracy Spradlin
ReplyDelete*i guess all I am saying is do or say whatever you need to.
ReplyDeleteDarn typo! Lol
Aw, thanks, Tracy! I'm so sorry about your husband. It's awful. For me, it's not like I got rid of cancer and all that goes with it... I'm just now facing a whole new reality that no one can really prepare you for.
ReplyDeleteHugs to you!!! :)
If it makes you feel any better, this perv still checks you out. You are a beautiful woman, in every way imaginable. You may occasionally lose sight of that, but it doesn't make it any less of a fact.
ReplyDeleteThanks, my pervy friend. I needed that. Xoxo
ReplyDeleteI don't know you personally, but I think you are pretty F'ING awesome. Your wit and humor have awed me thru your journey - don't let the end of the battle get you down. :)
ReplyDeleteHi Amy! Thank you so much!!!! :)
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